Remember, you are under no obligation to be kind to people that mean you harm. You do not owe civility to anyone that denies your basic human right to exist safely.
It is pointless to attempt to reason with a person that is resigned to believe your suffering is necessary and your pain in inevitable.
Resist that falsehood. Use a bat if you have to.
You matter. Your safety and well being matter.
Trying to show the light to ignorant, hateful people only tarnishes your mind and wastes brain resources. We have presented the evidence. It’s up to them to understand. It is not our job to show them. When they are ready, they will see.
Respect yourself enough to disengage with unhelpful conversations.
Reward kind and decent people with conversation instead.